How To Help An Abused Relative Who Is Also A Veteran

No one should ever be abused, but anyone can be. It happens all the time. Domestic violence is something that can happen to anyone you know including your friend, relative, co-worker, and more.

Often victims hide the evidence of their abuse. They are ashamed and fearful of people knowing that they are weak. Most victims do not even report their abuse, so that’s why it is essential to understand the signs and report it if you see them.

Understanding Domestic Abuse

There are patterns to domestic abuse that are important to understanding to help you identify it. Know these signs and patterns so that you can help others if you see them.

  • Often abusers threaten or intimidate their victims. They use verbal insults to humiliate and control them. They may threaten to take away the children, suicide, or violent actions and say it is all their fault.
  • It is essential to the abuser to feel all powerful and that they have complete control. This leads to controlling behavior over the victim’s life.
  • Having high levels of stress can make patterns worse. Recovering from injuries, job troubles, or trying to come back to society from war can be hard.
  • The frequent relocations that have to happen because of military deployment etc. can also stress spouses out.
  • Having to rely on spouses for income or support can also make people more likely to report domestic violence.

Warning Signs Of Abuse

There are many signs of domestic abuse that include:

  • Fear of their spouse or of ending the relationship
  • Physical abuse that may consist of grabbing, pinching, shoving or hitting
  • Emotional abuse like put-downs, embarrassment or humiliation in private or in front of others
  • Social isolation where the victim isn’t allowed to see or talk to relatives or friends
  • Threats of violence toward the victim, the victim’s children or people the victim loves
  • Unexplained bruises or injuries
  • Increased or unexplained absences from work
  • Harassing phone calls at work or home
  • Withdrawal from friends, family or fellow service members

You can help in quite a few ways. You can show your concern and offer support and resources to people. It’s crucial that the victim understands the process of getting help and how to get away from them. Be sure to call 911 if you think there is an immediate threat to them.